I dunno, life is short and I hate when I have a bad day. I do my best to minimize the negative effects that my actions or words may have on others. I think that's actually stronger than speaking your mind willy nilly. My rule of thumb is to treat others how they treat me and it's doing alright so far. I'm not perfect in this, but I do my best.
I assume the majority of the so-called "Asians" you've met in the USA were Chinese? China, despite being East Asia, actually has a culture quite distinct from that of Korea and Japan while the latter two are more alike than not.
America is like this because America has displaced and killed off most of the indigenous people and enslaved millions of abducted people.1% of people are fuckwits and deserve to be abused ... and then thrown overboard. Most of you guys have no idea how many fucktard HF rejects this site had to deal with when it started. Anaxilus (and RD when he was around) is our ***designated*** asshole fucktard HF reject, so you guys will just have to deal with that.