thought I might be able to dig out a cool tutorial I had for getting started with tubes - sadly it has been lost in all the pc transfers I have had over the years but I will keep looking for it. Tubecad is one way to try and understand design and parts choice but sometimes Broskie gets lost in his own thoughts. Pete Millet has an incredible archive of old books on tube and design. Headwize has a few tutorial driven projects too.
I was going to suggest a kit too but as you have built the crack and not gained the sort of experience that you were hoping for, it really comes down to experimentation.
I think the important thing would be to read about different tubes of design, WCF, SRPP etc and then decide what you want to play with
for your experimentation, I would recommend these sockets - not good for the finished amp but it will allow you to breadboard easily.

they can be found at many places but a quick google search found the one above at PE
http://www.parts-express.com/pe/showdetl.cfm?Partnumber=075-166&utm_source=googlepsAC wrote this cool paper on WCF for headphones - makes for good reading.
http://www.cavalliaudio.com/diy/docs/WCFOptimization.pdfIf you have an idea of stuff you might need, I am happy to raid my parts box , you could probably build a dozen amps from the bits lying about.
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